It's okay to...

I'm sure you have a favorite way to start the day, just like I do. I love listening to the Daily Inspiration on the Tapping Solution app. Just a quick couple minute listen can really give me a lot to think about for the rest of the day, and maybe even something to share with someone else at just the right time.

Today's email comes from Jessica at the Tapping Solution...I highly suggest if you haven't heard of tapping that you take a few minutes this week to check it out! Life has a way of being a little overwhelming at times, you don't sleep well, your mind won't stop racing, you aren't feeling quite right, or just need a little quiet time and space...that is where the Tapping app comes in handy! Simple quick reset to get you back on your way.

When's the last time you reminded yourself that it's okay, you are human, you are doing your best, and nothing has gone wrong...despite all that might be going on around you?

Yeah...I thought it had been awhile...

Here are a few simple reminders for you to consider today...

*1. It’s okay that things don’t turn out how you expect them to. We've talked about those expectations - they are just disappointments in waiting. Why do you keep doing that to yourself?

*2. It’s okay to adjust course and choose another path.

*3. It’s okay If you don’t have all the answers right now. Life has a way of working things out if you stay out of the way. ;)

*4. It’s okay to be a beginner and be clumsy when trying something you’ve never done before. So hard, isn't it?

*5. It’s okay if it all takes some time…more time than you thought…

*6. It’s okay to feel your feelings, whatever they are. You won’t stay there. They won’t take you out. Don’t keep holding that emotional beach ball under the water, or after it explodes out of the water yet again, don’t chase it and shove it back down again…Watch it just ride the waves, gently sitting on top of the water. Take note and learn...

*7. It’s okay If you don’t always feel okay. 

*8. One that’s super hard for me…It’s okay to ask for help...Are you sure? LOL

*9. Another challenging one for me…It’s okay to rest even when there’s a lot to do…or rest just because...

*10. It’s okay If you need a break from growing and to make space to just be. Can you just be in the moment? It’s the only thing you have any control over…think about that for a minute… 
Maybe you need to create your own reminder to take throughout your day today…so complete the sentence for yourself…”It’s okay to_________”. What is it okay to do, to feel, to be?? What comes to mind??
Take a deep breath and allow yourself to be in this moment. You took the time to read this…how are you going to apply it to your day?

Be well.

Two little words that could change everything...

Two words...

Two little words that could change your life, that blur your ability to be honest with your self...

Any guesses??

I'll share this quote while you think about it...

"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the economy, or the president.  You realize that you control your own destiny." Albert Ellis

What words did you come up with??

If you thought of "can't" and "won't", you're right.

How often do you throw these words around?
"I can't find the time to get up and workout every day."
"I can't forgive her for what she's done."
"I can't ask for help."
"I can't (fill in the blank) because...I can't afford it, or I'm afraid to..."

99% of the time when you say "can't", what you really mean is..."won't". You're not willing... You will not. 

In other don't really want to...

You don't want to do the work, or take the chance, or be uncomfortable or inconvenienced.

Let's try replacing that can't with won't...
"I won't get up and workout every day."
"I won't forgive her for what she's done."
"I won't ask for help."
"I won't (___) because I can't afford it...or I'm afraid to..."

Feels a little different, doesn't it?? 

When you use the word "can't", you feel like a victim, powerless with no control over your time, energy or choices. You take no responsibility for your life.

"Won't", however, helps you feel and show up more powerfully. You remember you are the one in charge of your thoughts and actions. You get to determine how you live your life. You feel more alive and energized.

So, my friend...which word will you choose today?

(Have you read Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo?? You will learn about this and so much more!!)

Are you holding on to hand-me-downs?

“We do not see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin

Belief is where it all begins, so when you change a belief, you change everything.
Many of your most deeply held beliefs are hand-me-downs. They’re old, unexamined and unquestioned ideas that you innocently accepted from others. You didn’t take the time to examine, question or choose them. 

Little by little, your environment programmed your brain with beliefs about everything from love, health, work, your body, money, religion, beauty, relationships, other people – you name it - but most importantly, beliefs about who you are, your own capabilities and your reality.

Your brain tends to reinforce what you already believe.  Confirmation bias simply means you look for and find evidence to support your beliefs. You pick and choose information that confirms what you already know, and ignore (consciously or unconsciously) information that challenges your existing beliefs…and it can run real deep…like in religion and politics…you know, those two subjects we don’t talk about at family gatherings?? LOL  You can’t totally eliminate confirmation bias, but you can choose to keep an open mind, and learn to master your thoughts, instead of being mastered by them.
All beliefs are learned, consciously or unconsciously, are a choice and can be changed.
Changing your beliefs doesn’t have to be hard. It just takes awareness, desire and practice, sometimes lots of practice, but a belief is nothing more than a thought that you’ve decided is significant and true. There’s not a thing holding that belief in place. No steel bars, padlocks or chains. Like any other thought that appears in your mind, you can choose to let it go.
If you are unhappy with any of the beliefs you’ve chosen or unconsciously accepted from others, you can simply choose again…and again…and again…
Notice the beliefs you don’t like. Practice becoming aware of what you’re thinking (i.e. believing) and know that, at any moment, you can decide if you want to continue believing that thought...or not.

“The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the economy, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny.” Albert Ellis

You always have more power than you think. Your mind is the most extraordinary tool you have to shape your reality. 

How you show up in your life, for the people in your world, depends so much on the way you think about yourself, the beliefs you have about who you are and what you represent and are capable of. 
Self confidence is a beautiful gift you can give yourself, that allows you to show up for everyone else because you’ve already shown up for yourself.
You are loved, adored and worthy, just because you are here. Don’t let those thoughts/beliefs tell you otherwise. Be good to you even when things don’t go quite like you think they should, when you fail and even if you get rejected. Feel the feels. Let that energy bubble up, recognize it, acknowledge it, then let it go. Don’t wait until that beach ball comes exploding up out of the water to acknowledge they exist…

One thing that will change your life...

Hey, hey, my friend! 

Question for you...When you are at the end of your life, you will come face to face with your regrets. All the things you wish you had done differently. What will yours be? 
According to Google, the top five regrets people have are wishing they had lived a life that was true to themselves, not one that others expected them to live; they hadn’t worked so hard at their job; that they had expressed their feelings; they had stayed in touch with their friends; and that they had let themselves be happier.

What if I shared with you one thing Dr. Edie from Life Mentoring School says will change your life? Would you be interested? Would you be up for the challenge, so you don’t face the same regrets?
Any guesses what that one skill is that will change your life?
It’s Love. Did you think unconditional love was a skill?? 

Every beautiful thing you have created in your life has been from love. Friendships. Your home. Your environment. Your family. And, loving others even creates more love in you.
Love just doesn’t happen, but you can create it just by making the decision to love and to get better at it. 
C.S. Lewis said, “Do not waste time bothering whether you 'love' your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him more.”
What would you do if you felt unconditionally loving? Practice those things. All the time. No matter what. It takes courage to love unconditionally. 
How would love show up? What would it say? What would it do? How would it act? How would it think? Remember…you get what you think about…so what if all you focused on was love?

Do you know anyone who is a master of unconditional love? That loves no matter what? How do you feel when you are around them? What about after you have been with them? That feeling of love lingers, doesn’t it?
Is loving unconditionally hard? Absolutely. You will still struggle because we all see things differently. You think you are right and they are wrong. They aren’t doing their part, or they aren’t doing it right…It’s all in your perspective
What about those people who are a bit harder to love? They are your teacher…your assignment…your curriculum. God gives you those difficult or hard people because He knew committing to loving this person would bring up sooo many unlovable things in you that need to be worked on…I’m sure you can think of a few people in your life that are here to teach you lessons, to teach you how to be a better person, where you need to grow, where you need to let go.

Learn to receive love. Open your heart and be receptive. Stop listening to the negative stories your brain wants to tell you. 
Love is what makes things beautiful, and magical. Choose love. It’s a skill to practice. Are you up for it?

If you are up for a little more emotional work, mark your calendar and join us for our next “Second Sunday” event, March 12 at 2pm. We will be talking about and exploring emotions and learning about some great tools to help you on your journey. Again this month, space is limited, so simply hit “reply” and let me know you would like a spot. If you are like me and feel better with an adventure buddy by your side, feel free to invite a friend who could also use this information.

Between the ages of 3 and 8 you decided that...

Jack Canfield says, "Life is like a combination lock, if you know the right numbers, in the right order, regardless of your race, gender or anything else, you can have anything you want. It doesn’t matter who you are – the lock has to open for you." 
Who remembers Muhammed Ali?? Am I dating myself? LOL  He says, “Impossible is a big word thrown around by small people who find it easier to live in a world they’ve been given than to explore the power they have to change it. Impossible is not a fact. It’s an opinion.” 
What if you changed impossible to “I’m possible”? 

Between the ages of 3 and 8, maybe 9, you decided you aren’t attractive, you’re not smart, you can't do math, people don’t like you, it’s not okay to ask for help, or to ask for anything at all…Our long held subconscious beliefs continue to get in our way even today.
Now consider this...the two most powerful words in our language are “I am”. Anything after those words, our subconscious takes as a command. Think about it. What words to you pair with I am?? Is it really what you want?? Do you really want to be fat, ugly, sick, tired, stressed, lonely, broke, unworthy, overwhelmed, exhausted...Remember, you get what you think about whether you want it or not...

Don't believe me?

Have any of you ever seen or tried Dr. Masaru Emoto's rice experiment where you talk positively to one jar of rice,  negatively to another and completely ignore the third jar for 30 days? We have done it and it is crazy! Check out his experiment by clicking here.  Try it for yourself! You will be amazed...

What do you need to let go of that your 8 year old self believed?? Grab your oils. Smell them right from the bottles. What ones are you drawn to? What ones do you not like at all? The ones you are drawn to, you need physically. The ones you cannot stand the smell of? Those are the ones your emotions need. Don’t set them down and walk away. Take the one that smells the worst to you. Put it on your feet. Put socks and shoes on after if you need to, or stuff them under your blankets.  But put the oil on. You can do this with more than one oil at a time, if you want, but at least use the one that is the worst for you. I promise, over time, if you continue to use it consistently, you will come to like or even love it, as the negative emotions are released and your cells are reprogrammed. I challenge you. Do it for at least a week, or a month, or longer. You will feel the shift. Then pick another oil…It’s truly that simple. You know my Stress Away story…

You are an amazing creation and you are here for a purpose. Don’t let another day go by without realizing that.

Want to know what my handy dandy blue books says for what oil to use for that emotion that keeps you awake at night?

Have an area in your body that hurts, an issue or dis-ease you would like to see the emotional baggage behind? 

Just curious and want to chat more?

Simply hit "Reply". I'm here to walk alongside you on your path to wellness, purpose and abundance. If you're ready, let's get started on the journey!
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